I have been drawn to write on this blog for sometime now but honestly I have been on the fence, crippled with anxiety over what to share with you all. Would it be well received? How honest should I be? Will I be judged? What do I even have to say that would be worth reading?! I mean, I get it, time is precious as a mum and I certainly don’t want anyone feeling like they have read to the bottom of a blog I wrote and walk away feeling like it was a waste of their time!
But you know what? I have concluded that the world is full of plenty of fake people trying to be something that they are not. (Let’s not confuse someone trying to be something they are not, with someone aspiring to be a better person/parent etc – more on that another day!). One thing is for sure, though. In the 2 years that I have owned Our Eco Babies and the 4 years that I have been a mum, I have met so many mothers who feel so damn isolated, lonely, anxious and depressed; disconnected from their babies, friends, partners, extended family and absolutely struggling since they became a mother. Struggling to balance it all, do what is “right”, tick all the boxes and live this happy life that they are supposed to be living!
“…they aren’t coping because their baby doesn’t sleep, they are having trouble breastfeeding, their baby is tongue tied, refluxy, colicy, or won’t be put down.”
There have been countless occasions where I’ve been talking with a new mum about babywearing and they have opened up to me about how they aren’t coping because their baby doesn’t sleep, they are having trouble breastfeeding, their baby is tongue tied, refluxy, colicy, or won’t be put down. Or their partners have gone back to work after a measly week, or 10 days, or maybe 2 weeks off if they are lucky and now they are left to fend for themselves, their newborn and their toddler; and possibly (often) older children… all on their own. Suffice to day, mothers have a lot going on.
Do you know what else is common these days? Not only are new mothers dealing with all of that, but I’ve noticed that there are so many now that are also studying, running a side business, organising and running community groups etc and there is so much pressure, both external and internal, to make all the right choices. Honestly it’s no wonder we are all so. bloody. tired!
“by not sharing the good, the bad AND the ugly, we are doing each other such a massive disservice.”
And the relief on these mums faces when I tell them how I’ve been there too, or that I am *still* there with them, and that I get it, really get it! It’s made me realise that there are not enough people sharing their experiences of the really hard parts of motherhood and by not sharing the good, the bad AND the ugly, we are doing each other such a massive disservice.
So I am going to commit to writing a regular blog to share my reality as a work at home mum of three beautiful kids aged 4 and under who test me beyond anything I have ever imagined! I’m going to candidly share with you how I’ve gone from a being a lawyer working outside of the home, to a stay at home mum, to running an online business from home and becoming a babywearing consultant.
“I’m going to share… what it’s like going from breastfeeding my first two children to 3 and 2 years respectively and then ending up having to bottle feed my third baby and all of the shame and judgement and disappointment that surrounds that…”
I’m going to share some of the many ups and downs of our natural parenting journey, my experience with postnatal depression and anxiety, what it’s like going from breastfeeding my first two children to 3 and 2 years respectively and then ending up having to bottle feed my third baby and all of the shame and judgement and disappointment that surrounds that and many many other topics that have come up for me on my parenting path.
I guess my hope for this blog is to help other mums realise that they don’t have to be perfect, they are going to “stuff up” but that’s OK, that there is no one right approach to most things in mothering (not even with your own kids) and that parenting is so, so, so hard, but that they are not alone. And I’m hoping that by sharing my experiences I’ll also learn to not only *know* that this is true, but I’ll actually feel it too.
I’m so looking forward to stepping into this honest space and I hope you will gain something from what I have to share. I also can’t wait to hear your experiences too, and I invite you to share them if you feel you can.
Catch you next week on the blog!