Do you ever get that gnawing feeling in your tummy – the one where you feel like you should be ‘doing’ more? Feeding your family better, researching how best to avoid chemicals and carcinogens more thoroughly – how to breathe without inhaling fumes and pathogens?… if not, then you are awesome and perhaps we should be friends so you can tell me your secret! If you do however, please, grab a cup of tea and let’s talk.
What is it about today’s world of technology; instant answers at our fingertips, articles bombarding us on Facebook (if you follow the health guru pages like I do) with all sorts of research and clinical trials to prove this and that, reports that ultimately we’re doomed no matter what we choose to eat, wear, or rub on our skin!
If I’m honest, as much as I love learning how to better our living habits to optimise a healthy lifestyle, I get completely and utterly overwhelmed by the ‘you should be’ mantra that everyone wants to sell me; from health gurus and their list of ‘top 10 must dos’, to fabulous new protein powders and super charged wonder foods, (don’t even get me started on the ‘post baby body’ crap I’m tired of reading about, I’ve had 2 babies in this belly, it’s gonna have a pouch while I don’t have a personal trainer to help me look like an underfed praying mantis!).
I get it, I want to keep learning about a nutritious diet, chemicals to avoid, healthier options for my family when it comes to the products we use (I’m absolutely sold on the Kin Kin Naturals range by the way!), but I do have to constantly pull myself up and remind my eager personality that it’s important to embrace one simple yet relevant word. A word that may ultimately make the difference between a happy ‘doing the best I can with where I’m at’ mummy and a ‘totally stressed out trying to live perfectly’ crazy lady!
The word is ‘Balance’. Its applicable to almost every area of our lives, and so it should be. In a world riddled with consumerism, a multi-billion dollar advertising market with a sole purpose to get you buying more and buying more often, not to mention the demands of just day to day living…what could be more relevant than to be mindful of ‘balance’; particularly for our family’s sake.
I have one of those personalities where, I can get a lead on something and run with it until I’m blue in the face. I’ll get stuck on a topic and go over and over it in my head until I don’t even care about the topic anymore and I’ve sent my husband up the wall. Normally it’s something health or nutrition related. While there’s nothing wrong with researching to better ourselves and increase our knowledge, and let’s not forget “knowledge is power”- there is however a saying I prefer…”There is no end to the reading of books, and much study is tiresome”. We must not forget to ‘balance’ and pace ourselves because we are all on a journey…
I want to take my time more and enjoy the literature, sip tea while researching something, sharing that knowledge with someone and enjoying the simple fact that ‘knowledge’ is available to us, but doesn’t have to ‘take over’ us. It can serve us, but when we become overwhelmed, confused, and have no peace, then it’s time to put the books down and just enjoy where we are at.
I have a wonderful group of Mama friends who give me a run for my money when it comes to ‘knowledge’ about health and well being. I love surrounding myself with these people so I can draw from and learn from them, they challenge and encourage me on my journey. Even though I’m not yet where they are at, that’s ok. I’m where I’m at, and for now that is enough. Who knows where I’ll be this time next year, hopefully with a little more time (after wee ones are in bed perhaps?), a cup of tea, and a measure of ‘balance’ I’ll be somewhere further than where I am now… ultimately so long as I’m the happy ‘doing the best with where I’m at’ mummy, then both myself and my family are going to be a lot happier than if I were striving and stressing.
Our kids, our spouse, and our souls will be far better off when we take a measure of ‘balance’ each morning as a supplement, rather than a dose of anxiety, stress, and overwhelm. It’s a journey, and grace for ourselves and where we are at is by far more important than any of the knowledge that is so readily available to us. We have a whole lifetime to learn and attain knowledge, so let’s enjoy the journey, not forgetting to sip tea, breathe, and be gentle with ourselves along the way.
Dani Avery. X
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